We put pressure and cast judgments on ourselves when we do not face our own fears...that can sometimes leave you feeling like your up against a wall!!
But who is satisfied feeling like that?? Highly unacceptable and your not living for you...your just simply existing with your fears. This blog is a challenge for those, like myself, that want to take control of their lives and live life to the fullest. I guess your saying "shut up and say how!!" Well, luckily for you..I am like you...trying to figure this thing out too. Hey don't Stop reading my post!!! We can and will grow.... together!!! I can share with you what I know so far!!
Well back to the topic of facing yourself....I have things that have happen in my life that I can not change too!!!
What to do in these cases?? We hold these negative life experiences over our heads whenever there is an opportunity take a step forward. Whether your taking a step towards forgiveness to moving forward in your own business, you remind your self of your so called flaws and failures. Whatever it is...we have things we hold on to that crush the spirit of hope and progression. People I would attempt to open up to would easily say to me "just let it go." HAAA!!! Yeah right...thanks for the advice. Well lets not just let it go so it can resurface again.
A lot of issues in our lives are connected to same mindset you had as a child!!
Now your an adult functioning out of your own self made belief system!!! Most of the spoken belief issues we have now began early in our child hood years. Don't believe me? Take a moment to think back. When you became aware of how others viewed you...you also became aware of how you would view yourself. What would you say after an experience that did not make you feel or look good according to others? "I knew it was too good to be true", "somebody is always doing me wrong," "life is not fair," "Nobody like me!,"or "I can't do this!" You probably don't pay attention, but your saying some of the same stuff as an adult. So just how powerful is my belief in myself as a child. Very powerful. Having a negative belief system does not make you a horrible hopeless person. But you have to take responsibility to fessing up to yourself and first admit, "Yes I am negative." So the next question is what are you doing to perpetuate this way of thinking??
We do not face are fears, we like to use exit phrases to dismiss us from even challenging ourselves to change.
Okay, what are exit phrases...what do you mean?? Okay let me explain. What ever you speak to support your negative belief system...you use it as an exit phrase. Our exit phrases supports how we handle doubt, it supports how we handle opposition and life. I just named a whole list in above paragraph. The exit phrase is what you tell yourself. Its that self talk. You hear your subconscious mind running those famous lines you have always told yourself...even as a child. Our exit phrase supports how we handle people and life experiences period. Your exit phrase pretty much is the foundation from whence you make decisions. You need to do better but the exit phrase keeps you from moving forward. The exit phrase keeps you in your mindset, in your box, in your self defeated world. You will use in the present time...experience after experience to confirm your belief. You get in the uncomfortable situation and something in you pushes play...your belief system plays back every emotion and every phrase you have rehearsed. Shall we dive deeper??Okay so how can you not be backed up into the wall of defeat!!! How can I believe what I am saying when facing my fears??
You need to go back, as far as you can remember, to the first situation you decided to give yourself permission to walk away defeated or sad. At what moment did you say, maybe they are right, maybe something is wrong with me or whatever. From the starting point of exit phrases, defeated phrases, came many more. All of this help shape your negative belief system. This is your truth. With this negative belief system, this is how you actually decided to to see yourself. Your belief system is your mirror. It is time to face yourself...I did it!!! I always believed the worst of things..lived a very lonely life...I was angry...I was paralyzed in my WILL to go on. Time itself and time to heal just kept passing by. I realized through in my own madness...that my life was a mess. I realized that I did this to myself. I created my belief system. Every time you made a mistake what did you tell yourself? Every time you were embarrassed publicly what did you tell yourself? If you see where I am going with this...you know what I am doing.
Now that you have been given the knowledge to understand... you have the power to change your mindset...your self made negative belief system.
Face yourself...turn your exit phrases into entrance phrases..turn exit phrases into..."its on now!!" Began to own the right to feel like fighting your way up to a place where you keep going head to head and toe to toe with issues you have within yourself. This will work because, how your functioning now is not acceptable to you anymore. You got to my blog because what you have been doing is not working anymore. Reading my blog was the first step. It is an action to call you to face your fears. Your ready to stop lying to yourself because you give a damn!!! It is up to you to exercise or to deny that right. This is a journey that is challenging at first but you have to chose to journey out of your own darkness. That journey is powerful and very life changing. I am here to encourage you and to let you know your own a beautiful path. Everything you have gone through will be small as you keep moving forward. Write out your beliefs as they are. Here yourself speak your beliefs...define the origin of that negative belief. Some stuff you will laugh at...and say wow!!! I was just a child I could have stood up for my self if I wanted to!!! Some belief origins will make you angry. Immediately do to the origin of a negative belief you will tare it down. Recognize your right to love yourself and forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not standing tall when you should have. Funny how you still have the same test...its just a knew day. Peace and blessings!!!
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