Black Woman: Give Yourself Permission to Hold Your Head Up!!!

As a young and older black woman in America...I still remember the thoughts back in the day of a dark brown complexion girl. 

My mother, father, and brother did their best to bestow love upon me. I remember coming home with hurt feelings because I was heavily teased about my color. I would sometime cry to my mother. Being the lovely woman she is, she would wipe my tears away and tell me what I should say next time to someone teased me about my chocolate hew. I remember anticipating on the jokes...ready to snap...with an improved comeback phrase. I would say the phrases my mom told me to say...I look back and now wonder, was this healthy. I would feel good for a moment shortly after to just have to defend my deep brown hew again and again. Wondering  when will it ever be okay to just be who I am...and not treated like my complexion was this big gigantic unalterable permanent flaw.

Enough of the sad story but what I have said is so true the black young woman. 

Think of how powerful it would be to stand up for yourself at the moment anything concerning your beauty, your race, your complexion or anything about you is challenged. I realize you will never know your own power if it is silenced by our very own selves. How many times did we silence our self love, joy and laughter when the things we thought good about ourselves was challenged. Is it the fact that so many people outside of you had a problem with dark complexion, that what they thought must be true. Did we as brown girls make other's problem with our complexion...did we make that our problem. Did we actually decide to not appreciate are true selves in our own skin.

I just really felt like dealing with the brown girl...the Black Woman today. Our ancestors, the black woman, in particular was broken down. 

That matriarch DNA strain never changes. Our fore mother's were birthing babies under horrible conditions. Self hatred in grained in our bones in slavery. So yes, that self hatred rises up even today. In this America today we are still not holding our head up and proclaiming our beauty unless some other nationality straight wavy hair is on our head and eyelids for eyelashes. We, as brown women carry a certain bitterness towards ourselves and therefore towards each other.  We in high positions still feel like there is more to prove to the world. We have to heal inwardly. Through acceptance of ourselves, we can heal a bloodline. We don't have to be like our ancestors, birth babies in a toxic body. Let me explain. In the wombs with our babies we must not secretly carry self hatred. With dreams as big as the earth...you can not carry self hatred.

Brown girls why is it so hard to talk about the truth. Its not about talking to others with a woe is me story. 

It is about making a conscious effort to remind yourself of your beauty. Remind yourself of your worth. You are probably thinking what if you have no worth...then what?? Well, my dear, that is your problem...the world really doesn't have to do anything but continue to go on. The question is since you are here in this world...are you willing to do what it takes to heal your mind as it pertains to what you think of yourself. I would not tell you to chant to yourself " I love my self" for you may feel no connection to it. But the belief you have...name its origin and chant that it is false. Once you break an old negative belief down than you can replace with one that is true and positive. You and only you can do that for you.

I Do Not Have to Know You to Believe In YOU....I Just Believe